Introduction
Questions to ask penpal – Many young men face a modern dating dilemma of the 21st century: how to properly communicate with a girl on social networks, how to chat, and what topics to discuss when meeting a girl online. Modern problems require modern solutions. Let’s examine several scenarios and explore potential developments.
First Impressions
When you spot a girl you’re interested in, resist the urge to rush into introducing yourself, asking for her number, or delivering a cheesy pickup line like: “Are your parents pirates? Because they found a treasure.” This approach might not only scare her off, but also ensure she wants nothing to do with you. You could inadvertently frighten her away, prompting her to quickly exit the conversation
Appearance
Remember, people judge by appearances. It’s pleasant to communicate with a well-dressed, neat person. You should smell nice and have well-ironed clothes. If you are going to a venue, it’s worth wearing something classic or smart casual:
- Shirt
- Trousers
- Jeans
- Sweatshirt
- Blazer
- Optional: tie or bow tie
No matter where you are going, you should look appropriate and pleasant. Your appearance is your business card.
At a Venue
If you are in a place like a cafe, restaurant, pub, or relaxation area where people are not in a hurry, it’s important to approach at the right time. When a person is busy, they won’t be interested in meeting someone new. Make sure the girl:
- Is not talking on the phone
- Is not in a hurry
- Is not with her boyfriend
If these conditions are met, you can establish eye contact. If you like someone, you will naturally look at them. Girls are very observant, and she will notice this eventually. When your gazes start to cross, it’s a good sign that she is also interested in you.
You can then:
- Smile at her
- Wink at her
- Ask the waiter what she ordered and send her a compliment from your table, preferably a drink or a bottle of wine or champagne
- Send her a note with a compliment
Examples of compliments to make her smile:
- “Your voice captivated me.”
- “You have incredible hair.”
- “You have great taste; you look very stylish.”
- “Your smile made my day better.”
- “I can smell your perfume from here, it’s wonderful.”
- “Your hands are so graceful.”
Compliments should focus on her appearance since that’s what you have just seen and can assess.
If eye contact fails, you can use these methods to attract her attention. Ideally, the girl will give you her number, charmed by your intelligent approach. If she doesn’t, just ask for it yourself.
Options for pleasant surprises:
- Flowers (a single rose as a compliment)
- Offer to sit next to her to continue the conversation
- Invite her to dance if you are in a suitable place
On the Street
The street is not the best place to get acquainted. It’s better to invite a girl for a coffee, to communicate more closely. Mention that she is very beautiful and that you like her. If she is with a friend, invite both. This shows you are sociable, respect her time, and her friends.
If schedules don’t align, exchange contacts or social media pages, like Instagram, to continue your acquaintance and conversation.
Online Communication
Starting and continuing a conversation should be polite and appropriate. A greeting should be normal and not extravagant. If you just met, mention that you liked her appearance, as you would in a cafe.
Example of what not to do:
When you want to get to know a girl, you wonder how to start a conversation online without looking foolish. Compliment her profile but avoid being anonymous.
Preparing Social Media
If you aim to get acquainted and chat with a girl on Instagram or other social networks, develop your page:
- Add photos
- Be active
- Fill out the fields about yourself
If you are polite and get rejected or ignored, understand that the girl might have a boyfriend or not be interested in socializing. Accept this with understanding; there could be many reasons. Keep trying, and you will improve your skills and eventually find the right person.
