Are there specific rules to follow when communicating with a girl, and if so, what are they? The editors at HOCHU.ua have decided to make communication with girls easier by sharing expert advice from dating professionals.
How to Properly Communicate with a Girl?
Certified psychologist Lachlan Brown believes that increasing confidence and improving communication with a girl will be easier if you follow his advice.
Hesitate, But Do It Anyway
Simply acknowledge the fact that it’s normal to be nervous and take the plunge to start a conversation.
Be Clear About Your Intentions
Tell her that you want to see her and ask if she’d like to go to the movies, have dinner, go skiing—anything you can afford or want to do together.
Remember That Rejection is Also an Answer
Of course, getting rejected is unpleasant, and the fear of it can be more tormenting than the question, “How to talk to a girl?” But if you never start a conversation, you’ll never get a positive response either.
Use the Power of Technology
While it’s important to initiate dates in person or over the phone, sending text messages after setting up a date can help establish a connection.
Ask Her Questions
If you’re not sure that your stories will interest her (unfounded fear), focus the conversation on her.
How to Talk to a Girl When the Conversation is Already Started?
Brown provides these rules for communicating with a girl in an ongoing conversation:
Give a Friendly Recommendation
For example, if she mentions she likes a particular song, recommend a similar band. Or try to steer the conversation to share neutral but interesting information with her.
Compliment Her
If the conversation naturally pauses, take a moment to give her a sincere compliment.
“When you compliment a girl, you keep the conversation going and earn bonus points for paying attention to how she looks and dresses,” says Brown.
Ask Her “What If” Questions
Hypothetical questions give you a chance to continue the conversation further. For example, you could ask, “What if you had a million dollars?” and then develop the dialogue with additional questions.
Talk About Work
Whether she loves her job or not, you can always talk about colleagues, the craziest thing she’s ever done at work, and, of course, office romances.
Be Honest
If she talks about something you know nothing about, don’t try to intrude on the topic. Instead, ask questions and show interest in learning more. Be honest and say you’re not familiar with the topic but would love to hear about it.
Don’t Fear Silence
Silence is a good opportunity to take a break and think about what else you’d like to talk about. Don’t shy away from silence; use it to your advantage.
Avoid Difficult Topics
During the first few conversations, don’t bring up sensitive and controversial topics.
Previously, we discussed how to meet a girl on the street. Practical tips can help start a conversation without coming across as a strange pickup artist.
